¿Qué es la atracción sexual?

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So, what is sexual attraction, you ask?

'Sexual attraction is a feeling that sexual people get that causes them to desire sexual contact with a specific other person.'

But we can expand on this:

This is something that is often grouped together with sexual desire, and vice versa. But don't be fooled! The two do not equate, as is explained here:

Sexual attraction - Seeing someone and not only finding them attractive, but thinking you'd like to have sex with them, like fantasies and such. It's attraction to another person that at it's end wants to be physically intimate, as opposed to being attracted to someone in a way where you think, "I'd like to get to know them" or "I want to be their best friend" or "I want to be close to that person".

Sexual desire - The desire to actually follow through with sexual attraction. I don't consider physiological reactions to be part of sexual desire, really, because in my case I know my body responds to sexual stimulus, the difference is that my mind isn't interested. So sexual desire is another mental thing, wanting actively to perform sexual acts with another person and believing that if you do you will feel gratified.

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You've probably seen term 'sexual attraction' thrown around a lot on AVEN, and you may have wondered how it feels. Well, here are some insightful analogies (conversaciones extraídas del foro en inglés):

"Then...wait, what makes sexual attraction sexual? Or anything at all? And what separates it from other types of attractions?"

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Respuesta 1:

"That to me is like asking "well if you smell coffee but don't want to go get one right now, how can you still think it smells good?". Thinking coffee smells good = attraction. Wanting to go get a coffee = desire. Sometimes the two go together, and thinking coffee smells/tastes good and periodically wanting coffee are certainly related. But you can think coffee smells good without wanting to drink the coffee you smell, and you can want a coffee without smelling some first.

Sure, sometimes you smell fresh coffee and you decide you'll have one right now, thanks, but there's no rule that says that's the way it always has to go down.

As far as differentiating sexual and aesthetic attraction, put crudely, it's the difference between "Oooooh, pretty!" and "I'd hit that." It's unmistakeably sexual in nature to me, and it was unmistakeably sexual to me for years before I had any sexual experience. I hate to put forward "you just know" as an explanation, so I've mulled it over, and really the best I can do is that it's a form of attraction that's tied in with sexual arousal and sexual fantasy, so even when you feel it on its own, you know it's sexual. The closest I can get is that it feels like sexual fantasy feels, even if there's no specific fantasising/mental-scenario-building going on."

Respuesta 2:

Just like seeing in color verses not seeing in color, what you are used to feels normal. as a homosexual, I feel sexual attraction on and off throughout the day. But it's not distracting, it's easy to put on the back burner so to speak. I really have to choose to want sex for it to effect me. It's very noticeable, but at the same time it's nothing out of control. if it is, the person is probably hypersexual.

When having sex with someone you feel sexually attracted to is a feeling that makes you feel loved and more alive, but if it's with someone that you don't like romantically, it can be a rotten experience even for a non asexual person.

Respuesta 3:

I like to compare it to your sense of smell. Something that's always there, but usually unnoticed or backgrounded. But occasionally something that motivates you to action, or makes you frustrated if there's something delicious that you can't have. Like smell, though, even if you can't have the delectable thing, that's still a pleasant sensation, despite the frustration (up to a point, anyway ;))

Respuesta 4:

sexual attraction..it is what it is..most do know what it is..but for some reason want to personalise and there starts the confusion

so to give the over thinkers a helping hand here is my opinion on sexual attraction

BE WARNED..A RUDI PICTURE FOLLOWS

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so in a room a sexual, a demi/semy/grey, a repressed sexual and an asexual all see the above picture and say

sexual: I would fuck that all day long and ride her like a race horse

demi/semi/grey: I would fuck that all day long and ride her like a race horse..as long as i knew her well enough first and i liked her

repressed sexual: I aint looking

asexual: ooo nice bed linen

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As noted earlier, sexual attraction and sexual desire are two distinct experiences. Meaning, you can experience one and not the other, which also means that you can not experience sexual attraction, whilst experiencing sexual desires, and vice versa.

Seems confusing? Fact is, sexuality isn't always so straight forward, as is thoroughly explained in 'Sexuals aren't all the same either...I think'. (Insertar este enlace: http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?showtopic=65608 ) Everyone's sexuality has unique qualities.

CBC shares their experiences here: http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?/topic/69729-aces-in-relationships-with-acesgreys-on-sexual-intimacy/page__view__findpost__p__2050438

Hopefully this thread has been helpful, hopefully now you are more in the know. :D

Quick summary:

If you wish to read further into this subject, and others, have a read though the 'Asexual-Sexual Q&A thread': http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/13175-the-asexual-sexual-q-a-thread/

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Definición:

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Atracción sexual:

Es el sentimiento que la gente sexual tiene y hace que desee contacto sexual con una persona específica. Esta a menudo, pero no siempre, va acompañada con otras formas de atracción, es decir, a veces una persona que experimenta atracción sexual sólo quiere sexo, con algunos amigos que solo los tendrá para su beneficio, y otras veces lo deseará, para interactuar en forma romántica u otra. A veces, los asexuales desearán contacto sexual por otras razones que no siempre están ligadas a la atracción (por ejemplo, con el fin de hacer a su pareja sexual feliz, para satisfacer una curiosidad, para tener hijos, o para demostrarse a sí mismos u otras personas que son “normales”). Por lo tanto, resulta difícil definirlo exactamente, muchos asexuales consideran que la atracción sexual es diferente al deseo. Una buena regla general es que la atracción sexual implica el deseo de realizar el acto sexual en sí, en lugar de sus consecuencias sociales. La asexualidad incluye algunos modelos, hacen distinciones entre los diferentes tipos de deseo sexual, y permiten que los asexuales se incluyan en algunas variedades, pero no en otras. Atracción sexual no es lo mismo que libido , aunque en los sexuales las dos a menudo van de la mano. Los asexuales experimentan la libido, que no está conectado a la atracción sexual o al deseo, y por lo tanto algunos puede practicar la masturbación.

Atracción Primaria y Secundaria:

Atracción sexual primaria:

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Es una atracción instantánea por una persona, esta se basa en la información que tiene disponible al instante como su apariencia o el aroma que puede o no llevar a la excitación o deseo sexual.

Atracción sexual secundaria:

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Es la atracción que se desarrolla con el tiempo en función de la relación de una persona y la conexión emocional con otra persona.

Ver también

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Atracciones

Modelo de atracción sexual primaria y secundaria

Deseo sexual